Run Girl Run - From Abuse to Peace
“I don’t want to be married to him anymore and I need you to be okay with that and I need you to come get me,” Kelly said to her sister after her ex-husband raged against her physically.
This is Kelly Mallory’s breaking point in her first marriage. She knew three things:
1. I don’t want to be married to him anymore.
2. I need my family to be okay with this.
3. I know my mom’s house is safe, so I am going to be okay.
As you listen to Kelly’s story (click here to listen) are you finding that this is your story also?
Or maybe a friends or sister’s story?
This is painful and gut wrenching to watch someone go through this. It is so hard to walk with them through this pain and suffering. But, it takes more courage to leave and run from relationships that we need to be ready to help and encourage and comfort those who are brave enough to do so.
For by you I can run against a troop, and by my God I can leap over a wall. ~ Psalm 18:29
Marriage is a covenant between two people based on love. 1 John 4:18 says, “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.”
Your question then is what dictates perfect love? Is the “love” filled with fear: fear of sleeping, fear of him raging, fear of him, fear of being home alone, fear of what happens after he has too much to drink? No this is not love.
God wants peace for you in a marriage relationship, above is not peaceful. God does not want you to go through this by yourself either. If you have Christian friends, or a pastor or family tell them, they will respond with love and kindness. We have also provided resources for you below.
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.” ~Eccl 4:9-10
Don’t let shame and embarrassment hold you back. We are in new times. These times where some of us have not left our homes, stress and depression look and feel different than before. But don’t give physical or emotional abuse a pass. Don’t shrug it off. Don’t shrink back! Reach out and ask for help and be saved, preserved, restored and renewed.
Don’t shrink back because you will be destroyed because those who have faith are saved.” Hebrews 10:39.
What is Satan and the world whispering to you that is making you stay in this relationship? Let all those “what if” that are holding you back from running free, go. Break free from that...pray for a breaking point. A point where God will open the door for you and you can run and not feel condemned, embarrassed, criticized or questioned.
Kelly hit that point.
Sometimes we are in situations where we say to ourselves, “ I have no idea how to get here!” Whether it is physical abuse, emotional abuse, eating disorders, abortion, alcoholism, pill addiction, food addictions all things that hold us back from fully running into the arms of God for help.
“My soul dissolves because of grief; Renew and strengthen me according to [the promises of] Your word.“ ~ Psalm 119:28
Through many hours of counseling Kelly is now able to tell her story. During her time with her first husband she could not have put the pieces of the puzzle together on how she got where she was but thankful she got to the point where she called out for help and family was there. Friends would have been also and of course God was there all along.
God provided a safe place for her to go and be.
Just remember that a thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; But Jesus comes so that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly. ~ John 10:10
You are valuable, you have worth, so girl, run from what is robbing you of your life.
If you need some resources to help you in this journey you can always contact us here at Frisco First and also:
National Domestic Abuse Hotline
Genesis Women's Shelter
Hope's Door New Beginning
As you listen to Kelly's first part of her story, we hope you hear her ability to share open and honestly what took place with no shame. God has brought her along way and she wants to encourage women who are currently in this place to run to a place of refuge, a safe place.